Head Mistress and Variety

Every mistress out there appreciates a truly devoted pet. One that bends to her every will, one that complies with her every demand, one that knows her expectations and strives to exceed them. The pet doesn’t waste time, isn’t an energy suck – is just overall a well-trained sub.

BUT, THOSE subs are few and far between. I could throw a dart and hit someone that CLAIMS they are as devoted as they SAY but I am not one for empty promises. I am a mistress of action and tangible proof of your devotion. Don’t say it…DO it. That is, perhaps, another post later on.

Today I’m going over certain expectations I have for those that serve me.

While I love ones that are head-over-heals monogamous pets…I am not a monogamous mistress. You will not be my only pet. You could very well become a top pet but that position is something that is something that you have to constantly work at. I have found that the majority of submissive pets that are well-trained and are of the level of sub I want – they kind of need variety.

I am ok with your desire to have a variety of Mistresses.

I know there are Mistresses that will say that this is a hard-limit and you have no business serving others. That is fine. Live and let live.

I will say that if you are OWNED that I will not accept you as a pet. If you are OWNED you have no business seeking out another mistress to play with, UNLESS you have actual permission from your mistress. I don’t believe in stepping on the toes or disrespecting another mistress.

I don’t play the games of ‘well so and so, does this’ or ‘this mistress said that’ –if you are a pot stirrer that gets off on the drama some women tend to get off on I can point you in the proper direction but it won’t be towards me.

I expect honesty from my pets and submissives. Be honest about the fact that you like to shake things up.

With that said…I DO expect to be your HEADMISTRESS. If you want to be devoted to me, if you want to be in my good graces and not seen as a one and done type submissive, if you want to build on a D/s relationship – I expect to be your Head Mistress.

What is a Headmistress?

It shouldn’t be that hard to decipher. She is the one you ultimately serve. Sure you can go out for your variety when there are times that schedules don’t line up, or you just want to have a little swirl for the evening…but the rules set for you by your headmistress you ultimately follow.

For instance…with your headmistress if you are on a strict chastity. Don’t go to another mistress to have it removed, the only one that can remove it is your headmistress. The other mistress could encourage chastity or perhaps tease and torment you and humiliate you while you are in it.

Your Head Mistress has the final say over everything.

Respect is everything when it comes to properly serving a Domme. I respect your need for variety, just as I expect YOU to respect me as your headmistress.

Some may agree, some may disagree – I don’t care. You follow the rules of the one you deem as your headmistress. I don’t fight with other dommes and never will. There will never be a sub worth the energy of a fight. LOL However, I love the ability to partner up with them and turn you into a tennis ball that we hit back and forth and fuck your world up deeper.

Double-domme sessions are something I adore with a select group, and am always open to the idea of adding in more.

You take care of your Head Mistress and she is sure to make sure you are well taken care of too. Just food for thought.

Do you have a head mistress? Are you a single mistress sub or owned? What rules do you have to abide by?

Until next time my pets.

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The Illusion of the 24/7 Slave

You have scoured the internet for the perfect Mistress or Mommy Mistress. One that fits everything you could ever picture. The diamond in the rough, the union if you will. You found her. You find out how to contact her. You send an email — Your first ever conversation with her.

“Are you looking for a 24/7 live in slave”

How do you really expect someone to respond to that? If it were the vanilla dating girl and you found pictures and a profile of the girl of your dreams and sent a message

“let’s get married tomorrow and I want to move in”

It is not going to be met with a warm response IF you get a response at all. Instead, the email is marked spam, you may be blocked and you are dubbed ‘creepy as fuck’

You simply can’t contact someone on the first conversation and ask for 24/7 servitude. Maybe YOU have decided she is perfect for you…but how do you know SHE would think you are perfect for her?

The FANTASY of the 24/7 submissive, live-in-slave is a great one to roleplay out with RT sessions or Online domination sessions — But if you are asking in terms of a lifestyle 24/7 live in submissive or adult baby you have to understand the gravity of what you are asking.

I put in all my profiles and postings that I am not looking for a 24/7 live in submissive in any form.

Truth is IF I ever DID take one on it would happen organically. It would come by slowly and naturally just as any normal vanilla relationship would.

There is a courting period…there is a bonding period…and who knows if it would ever move past that.

To me a 24/7 live in slave is the same as a live in boyfriend or spouse. It would happen organically and I can guarantee I will never consider an arrangement like that long-term from a single email where we have never even met.

Of course, the illusion is fantastic. It is a beautiful picture.

You wake up early every day to have my coffee ready for me, my shower warmed up, my clothes for the day laid out.

We go our separate ways during the day as you would be expected to contribute to household expenses and all of mine. I go tend to my career goals in the vanilla world and come home to dinner already prepared, a glass of red wine poured, and the chores already done.

Every day for you is greeted with a swat or two as a daily discipline to remind you of your place. Every day you are to sit, kneeling at my feet awaiting my next command. You would live to serve me.

If you earned a reward then you would receive said reward when I deemed acceptable. You wouldn’t sleep in my bed, you would sleep in a dog cage or on the mat outside my door like a dog. You would eat out of a bowl. You would be collared full time and there would be no end to your serving me.

During online domination sessions I love to go over how it would be, even I like the fantasy of it. During my RT sessions I’ve done longer ones and would do a 24 hour or more live in slave scenario/role play

Of course for my adoring adult diaper lovers and sissy babies longer babysitting is exciting as well and is obviously much different than what I would fantasize as far as a slave goes.

The sky is the limit with imagination — hold onto the illusion of a 24/7 slave…role play it out…but if you are seeking an actual position of a 24/7 take time to think of what it really means and figure out how you should REALLY approach that type of conversation.

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How to find a Mistress

How do I find a mistress?

I’ve heard this tired question (or variants of it) time and time again. You see it in all forums and avenues, I see this question in skype, on my yahoo instant messenger, and in my emails almost daily. This question is just as basic and tiresome as “how do I talk to a girl”, something that you may ask if you were 10 years old and finding out there were girls (or boys) that…peaked…your interest. Sorry, I’m not sorry…there is such a thing as a stupid question and this would fall under it.

I understand that you are a submissive and may want some hand holding, and you may need some guidance. Something YOU must understand…is that you will have to do some legwork in order to connect with a worthwhile femdom. You need to ask specific, pointed questions. If you want a unique experience, then don’t ask a general question.

I know I come off as arrogant with those statements…it’s because I am part of the elite, I am entitled and I own it…because I’ve put in the work and have been a mistress for a while now.

First and foremost – It’s imperative that you figure out the basic bit of knowledge…are you seeking a personal/lifestyle relationship or are you seeking pro-domination. You should NEVER contact a pro-domme if you are seeking something that doesn’t involve tributing for the session.  I am a pro-domme, findom and I charge for my services. Asking basic questions may still require a tribute because if you are going to take up MY time to help you instead of searching for the information yourself, I deserve to be compensated for that time. Any respectful human being would understand that, submissive or not.

So, you’ve decided you will never go into the pro-domination scene. You don’t want to pay for it, or you are of the cloth that believes that ‘real mistresses don’t charge’ (FYI…that’s a load of shit and no mistress will want ANYONE with attitudes like that. Even ones that don’t charge). That’s fine, so the follow up question would be what ARE you looking for? An actual lover-type relationship or just someone to play with?

My best suggestion at finding a mistress or scene play partner is to get involved in the local scene, go to the munches, go to the get-togethers reach out and make those connections. I know that can be daunting and scary, but it will be the best way to meet someone and possibly forming those connections to create a bond that will lead into play partners. (Sounds a lot like dating right? It absolutely is.)

If you are looking for a one time only thing, it is less likely to happen…and you’d be better off going to a pro-domme or trying your luck with a personal friend that just wants to take a walk on the wild side.

Then you must answer this question about yourself…what do YOU have to offer?

Along with the emails that will ask ‘how do I find a mistress’ I will receive a laundry list of THEIR wants and THEIR demands. Often making claims of “I’ll do whatever you want mistress”, “Please use me mistress”, or one of my favorites “can I be your oral slave mistress?” (As if any 28 year old girl of any status wants to let some random boy lick her and give them the ultimate privilege…*eyeroll*)

Please understand that an elite femdom, any intelligent mistress worth serving has a specific set of skills, she lives the lifestyle, she hones in on her craft; constantly growing it and perfecting it.

She also will not come for ‘free’ if you want free or relationship status it really just starts with being a decent human being, not doling out a to-do list of your sexual desires.

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What is Subspace?

Ever heard about this so called subspace?

It exists my dears. Several have reached it, and if you are one of my submissive pets…it is a place I intend to take you.

I took the liberty of copying the definition from Wikipedia for you (now, normally I would not use Wikipedia as a worthy source…but for most sexual fetishies and niches, it seems to be ok 😉 )

Subspace (also sub space, flying, or floating), in the context of a BDSM scene, is a psychological state that can sometimes be entered by the person bottoming in the scene.

Subspace is a metaphor for the state the bottom’s mind and body is in during a deeply involved play scene. Many types of BDSM play invoke strong physical responses. The psychological aspect of BDSM also causes many bottoms to mentally separate themselves from their environment as they process the experience. Deep subspace is often characterized as a state of deep recession and incoherence. Deep subspace may also cause a danger in newer bottoms who are unfamiliar with the experience, and require the dominant to keep a careful watch to ensure the bottom isn’t placing himself or herself in danger. Many bottoms require aftercare while returning from subspace.

What does subspace mean to you?

Subspace can be seen as an erotic trance of sorts. You are in a state of pure submissive bliss. You may think you are at you’re weakest state, you’re most vulnerable, but content.

Its one of those feelings that are easier to describe, by placing you there. But it is a state of mind that isn’t easily obtained by just anyone.

Take for example a little newbie pet of mine recently—he has been so eager to leave a lasting impression on his mistress, so willing to make me happy.

Within a few hours of our first session, we was sinking into a subspace. Substantially sooner than most, but we did speak for almost 7 straight hours and just had that spark, that connection.

In his particular subspace, hearing my voice is more erotic and enticing than the fantasy of having sex with me.

His particular situation…he knows he would not even get a pity fuck.

But, he is melting to my voice, he is melting to my words, and adhering to my instructions.

I did not allow him release.

Instead, passed him to another mistress to obtain some more tease and denial training, and we have been bouncing him back and forth.

His level of subspace is so intense, so deep…that I’d almost say it’s the deepest I’ve seen of anyone. His happiness is based on our happiness…on MY happiness.

He could lay there in total silence, counting his breaths, feeling everything around him…not wanting to come back to reality.

But, that is just one example…the experience is different for everyone. If you know YOU , and know your desires, I can get you there quicker…but if you are a newbie sub, and just learning…it could take a tad longer to bring you to that amazing spot known as sub space.

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Indulging Cuckold Cravings

Fear not, little cuckold, you are in good hands.  Or perhaps I should say, you’re about to be transformed by the hypnotic sounds of my voice into a perfectly obedient cuckold as we indulge in your cuckold cravings.

In my mesmerizing world of sultrily seductive cuckold phone sex, your one desire is to please and serve me. 

That may entail many things, my little slut pup, so I hope you brought your appetite.  Once I’ve caught your mind and imagination in my web of entrancement, you will happily fluff my lover for me.  You will also beg to sop up cum-filled creampies with your hungry tongue.  You will not miss a drop.

I also like to use my new found cuckold puppet as a tool to better enhance my experience with my sexy lover.  You may be required to elevate my hips so as to facilitate a better angle for mine and his pleasure.  Of course, this means you’ll be better able to feel every juicy thrust as well.

In the end, it won’t matter what exactly we play.  I enjoy playing many hot phone sex fantasies.  What will remain with you will be my seductive entrancing tones that will seep into your memory and your thirst will only be quenched when you call

Allow me to mold you from the pathetic, sexually useless male that you are, and turn you into the proper cuckold husband.

If you are brave enough or seeking a more realistic cuckold experience, take the step to call me and my bull.

We will have some cuckold fun together.

And for the beginners, cum to Mistress Lillith and let me guide you through the world of cuckold fantasies.

Indulge in your Cuckold Cravings

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Discipline of the Submissive

There is so much more to being a discipline mistress than dueling out over the knee spankings, and whippings.

I will train and condition you in different areas and focuses of the fetish lifestyle and kink. I know the inner workings of a true submissive and know that the type of submissive I seek, is one that needs training and growth in their kink. I prefer someone cerebral that does have ideas for their trainings and can add to the session. In some instances I have a brand-new-to-fetish submissive that needs to learn what it is that makes him tick and that is precisely what I do.

I discipline new submissive and train them in the erotic form of fetish and kink.

Of course I love to paddle your asses until they are bright red and throbbing. Inflicting pain for my pleasure is something I will always take great pride in. But, I paddle with a purpose.

I whip you to further your training, in whatever area that may be. I whip you because as a submissive you need constant reminding of your place, and that is at my feet, bent over, ready to take whatever punishment your mistress is going to hand out

I will teach you that being submissive to a discipline mistress, always goes beyond. A whipping isn’t just a whipping; a cock tease isn’t just a cock tease. There are many layers of femdom, fetish and kink. Where you start on your submissive journey will be similar, but where you go and where you end up (And keep ending up) changes because of the ever-evolving nature of kink.

I will mold you and discipline you to become the submissive play thing that I want you to become. Enjoy the journey.

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