Contacting a Mistress: Hi, Hey, Sup Mistress

*Eye roll, delete, move on*

This is exactly how most of us will react upon seeing the never-ending barrage of single word, empty pleasantries. When contacting a mistress, don’t do that.

It may seem cold, callous and rude but if you had any idea how often or how many times a day we see these exact words – you’d understand.

From my perspective-“Hi, Hey, Sup”- is actually a highly disrespectful opening and therefore tells me almost all I need to know about you. If you can’t start OUT respectful, why would you be worth training?

Is that a fair assumption? Not, really. As a dear friend of mine says ‘stereotypes never help anyone’. There is probably a decent percentage of those that send those opening lines and really are legitimately trying to connect in some way shape or form – but from my interactions and follow ups with them…that percentage is not in my favor. As a result, my responses are few and far between. Since it is an unfair assumption, I’m giving you the opprotunity how to better communicate or at least yield a better percentage of responses.

My time is valuable as is the time of most Mistresses or ANYONE for that matter. It doesn’t just have to be in this industry.

Hell even my own friends will send more than just a ‘hi, hey sup’ unless they’ve had an account hacked by a spammer –

Go and take your own tally now. Go ask your friends and family, go as other business professionals ask any one…if someone sends you a message saying hi, hey, sup or *insert emoji* would they respond? Some will say sure but are apprehensive and many will say no for numerous reasons.

Why do I choose to write about this today?

Because of the small percentage that really ARE looking to connect. Because I am a mistress that trains submissives how to be, and in this case it can actually help you be better human beings and communicators.

Change your verbiage. Small talk isn’t likely to happen – so say your piece and then you can await.

It should take no more than 2-3 sentences for you to get to the point – you’ll likely receive a better response or actual response. The content of those 2-3 sentences will be important but you’ll either figure it out or you won’t.

What you can’t/shouldn’t do:

Send hi, hey, sup, an endless barrage of emojis or several follow up of a bunch of question marks.

• That is an annoyance. Sending more is not going to draw my attention to you and may just wind up with you blocked
• I am not a Private Detective, I’m not interested in responding fishing for information. If you can’t find the time to send a thought out message, I can’t find the time to figure out what you want

Also, don’t send a novella. Ever

• We all know you didn’t write that novella out for us. We know you copied and pasted it in hopes that someone would respond. Most of us wont. Or will tell you to send a payment along with it for our time.
• Let’s use this example sent to me. 13 Screen shots worth of a message. I did tell him to tribute and he said ‘Not again’ – he hadn’t send payment to me before so that tells me that (1) he doesn’t respect my time and (2) he’s sent this message before and was expected to pay. He also mentioned a ‘next adventure’ – there wasn’t a first adventure. (moves back to the copy and paste he was clearly doing). Don’t be surprised that people that charge for their time expect you to pay for their time. He also sent that way back in January and then messaged me just recently to see if I had read it. I hadn’t nor would I remember some long rambling of a stroker slut months later. He did call but the call lasted 11 minutes. I adore my callers but I’m not spending 30 minutes setting up a call that lasts 11 unless that 30 minutes is compensated for. – it’s not nickle and diming, it’s expecting you to show respect.

What you can/should do:

Take a few moments to figure out what it is you want out of the connect – to call, to submit, what are you offering or seeking that falls underneath what she is about?

You can send a quick message like this:

Hello Mistress Lillith, I am ‘insert name or your own label’, I found you on ‘where you found her’ and Im interested in setting up a call/ordering a custom/interested in “Insert your comment”.

That is most likely to yield a better response. Generic hello’s will never yield a positive response. Im not saying that its’ perfect and im not saying you’ll ALWAYS receive a response…but you are certainly more likely to receive some type of response.

From there —  

You can be more casual. I’ve already proved myself by the amount of info you can find about me. But, you need to prove yourself. We can get to a point of quick/in passing hi’s and hello’s but, it will never work for me on first impressions -even my closest friends don’t just send single word messages without wanting to actually get my attention. Get to the point. 😉 Make a good first impression.

First impressions are everything. Best for you to make a good one.